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Hey! What happened to this website?!

When our server experienced a catastrophic hardware failure in November of 2009, I took the opportunity to re-assess a few things. One of the decisions I made was to drastically reduce this site. I was going to remove it entirely, but decided to at least keep a resources list (see below). Later, I decided to restore some of my essay pages on certain recovery topics (linked below).

Quite simply, I have realised that I don't want to own the identity of "survivor" any more. Being a "survivor" necessarily and automatically keeps you tied to and associated with whatever it is that you "survived". I don't want to spend the rest of my life being tied to my dysfunctional family of origin, domestic violence, mental illness, sexual assault, and other traumas. Although those things shaped a lot of my personality, I am not those things, and I'm really and truly ready to just leave the past behind, where it belongs. I live in the now, not in the past. I am not "a survivor" any more than I am "a victim".

I have, however, kept the page in my personal site where I talk a bit about my history/past. You can still visit that page if you really want to do so. Just know that I am not that. I have transcended labels like "victim" and "survivor" now. You can do the same, if you want it...

In any event, I sincerely wish you healing. And so it is.

Trauma & Recovery Resources

General & Miscellaneous Mental Health | Trauma & Post Traumatic Stress | Anxiety & Panic
Self Injury | Dissociation | Ovecoming Victim Mentality | Forgiveness
Meditation/Hypnosis | Abuse Issues in Childbirth | Psychiatric Humor

General & Miscellaneous Mental Health [menu]

• 4Therapy.com
• Asarian-host offers free email, resources, all kinds of support and information, and more
• Zentastics: Practical personal development for child abuse survivors
• CyberPyschLink
• Emotional Vampires: What they are, how to recognise them, and how to protect yourself from them
• Internet Mental Health
• Mental Help Net
• NetPsychology
• Pysch Web
• Psychosynthesis Home Page
• Soul's Self-Help Central
• Self Healing Techniques That Will Really Work
• A Guide to Handling Guilt and Self Punishment
• Resources for Healers and Caregivers of Children (lots of good info on PTSD in children, and other helpful things)
• abusivelove.com: LOVE SHOULD NOT HURT
• The Child Abuse Information Warehouse
• Dr. Irene's Verbal Abuse (Site)!
• Physical and Emotional Abuse Survivors Online Support Group
• Hope, Despair, and the Triumph of Life: Abuse Prevention and Survivor Support
• The Institute for Psychohistory has some fascinating historical information on abuse issues. NOTE: May be triggering, please proceed with caution!
• The Silent Legacy addresses many child abuse issues
• Still Rising: A Resource for Survivors of Childhood Abuse
• The Survivors Art Foundation

Trauma & Post Traumatic Stress [menu]

• The Trinity Pages: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
• David Baldwin's Trauma Information Pages
• Gift From Within: Posttraumatic Therapy
• The National Center for PTSD
• Trauma Anonymous
• PTSD Alliance
• Tibetan Meditation and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Anxiety & Panic [menu]

• The Trinity Pages: Panic Anxiety Disorder
• Agoraphobia Insight
• Anxiety Disorders Association of America
• Anxiety Treatment Australia
• The Anxiety Network International
• Anxiety & Panic Disorders at About.com
• Anxiety & Panic Support Persons' Page
• Shyness and Social Anxiety Treatment Australia
• The National Anxiety Foundation
• tAPir: The Anxiety-Panic Internet Resource

Self Injury [menu]

• The Trinity Pages: Self Injury
• malady: a documentation of self injyr
• Self-Injury: A Struggle
• Self Injury Information and Resources
• Secret Shame
• Self Injury
• S.I.A.R.I. (Self Injury and Related Issues)

Dissociation [menu]

• The Trinity Pages: Dissociation Disorders
• alt.support.dissociation FAQ
• The International Society for the Study of Dissociation
• The Sidran Foundation

Overcoming Victim Mentality [menu]

• Victim Mentality (at SelfGrowth.com)
• Overcome Your Victim Mentality and Take Control of Your Life!
• How to Overcome Victim Mentality
• Eliminating Our Own Victim Mentality
• How to Break Out of Victim Mentality: 7 Powerful Tips
• Victim Mentality - You Don't Have to Suffer!
• Keys to Overcoming the Victim Mentality
• The Victim or the Victor?
• Are you Living a Victim Mentality, or are You Actively Creating a New Life in Recovery?

Forgiveness

• Forgiveness, Psychology, and Mental Health
• The Freedom of Forgiveness
• The Healing Power of Forgiveness
• Forgiveness: A Path to Healing
• Our Innate Innocence – Reflections on Forgiveness

Meditation/Hypnosis [menu]

• Healing Through Meditation
• Learning to Relax
• Meditation Benefits the Brain
• Meditation: Psychological Benefits
• The Effects of Meditation on the Body
• Benefits of Meditation
• Meditation Therapy
• Meditation: Its Benefits
• Mindfulness and Positive Spirit: Methods to Achieve Happiness
• Brainwave Entrainment: Change Your Mind, Change Your Life
• Download Meditations: Real guided mp3 Development Meditations
• Free Hypnosis Downloads

Abuse Issues in Childbirth [menu]

• Abuse Issues in Pregnancy and Labor
• Childhood Sexual Abuse and Its Effects On Childbirth
• Post Traumatic Stress Disorder After Childbirth
• The Effects of Sexual Abuse on Pregnancy and Birth

Psychiatric Humor [menu]

• Mental Health Humor
• Cyber Disorders
• For Sale by a Mental Patient (be glad you're not this crazy!)

Please note: The name of this website has nothing to do with the orthodox Xian teaching of a triune deity. It also has absolutely nothing to do with The Matrix, a film which didn't come out until several years after I started using that name for this site. The site name is a personal one, having to do with the way my life has tended to run in cycles of threes. It is also a nickname I have been known to use in certain online recovery communities. Please do not read more into it than there is. A name is just a name.